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Who Is The Woman Behind The Dancing Curtain?

Recently, I had a conversation with someone who had been a client of mine many years ago. I quickly realized that she didn't understand what my focus was. She thought that I was only helping women with issues related to childbirth. This made me realize that there may be some confusion and with so many new people on my list, I thought this would be a good time to clarify who I am.

Who is the woman behind The Dancing Curtain?

I am a holistic health expert, writer, and speaker who advocates for women's health and wellness. With over 20 years as a researcher and over 18 years as a holistic health expert, I have empowered women to heal their chronic conditions, illnesses, and trauma using a holistic approach by deciphering the root cause, and treat using a mind/body/spirit approach, natural recommendations and the natural, sacred medicine of the Earth. My specialty is not only returning women to phenomenal health but to joy.

Healers Are Not Scary

Recently, I had a discovery call with a woman. She had found me from Googling. She was looking for someone to help her with trauma and she wanted to work with someone in Connecticut because she was moving to Connecticut.

But somehow, even though, she had found me from a search she didn’t know I was a healer and a medium.

Once I told her that I was a healer and a medium and described the work that I did she became so fearful.

I am an empath so I could feel her fear towards me. It was the oddest feeling. I am the type of person people tell me everything, the type of person strangers open up to upon meeting, the type of person people say they feel joyful just to be around. And yet, a woman who needed my help was fearful of my titles. We had a nice rapport but once I said I was not a coach but a healer, she froze. In a timid voice, she asked how I became a medium.

“I thought you were a coach,” she said.

“I do offer recommended action steps like a coach,” I said, “but I do much more. I wear many hats. My sessions are deep.”

Why Do We Put Busyness On A Pedestal?

Many times when someone asks how someone else is doing, the other person may respond, “I am so busy.”

I always find the response “That’s good” to be odd.

Why are they glad the other person is busy instead of well or happy?

And some people even say, “Well, at least it’s better than the alternative.“

Better than being relaxed and at peace? Better than someone feeling they are enough and that they don’t have to hustle to fit in? Better than feeling balanced and healthy?

I think it’s so important for us to practice mindfulness.

It's A Bigger Issue Than Racism

Last year one of my clients asked me to teach empathy since he believed that the world needed more empathy. No one ever asked me to teach empathy before so I thought about it for a minute. I have been an empath all of my life, but can empathy be taught? I concluded that it can’t. Compassion can be taught; mindfulness can be taught but empathy cannot be taught, especially as one gets older.

Luckily I grew up with my father being empathic so I was around empathy growing up. Kids develop most of their personality by the age of 7.

I grew up in a predominantly white environment as one of the few African American families in town. Looking at me, most people don’t expect it, but like other African-Americans, I was exposed to racism. But I was exposed to racism in a different way than most since many people didn’t know if I was white or black.

On the school bus, I remembered one kid saying how much he hated blacks and my neighbor tried to shush him saying, “Be quiet! Khristee’s on the bus!”

To which he replied, “Who cares? She’s not black!”

To which my neighbor replied, “Yes, she is!”

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